While watching The Voice this season and hearing Lauren Duski sing the song she wrote: “Déjà Vu” reminded me so much of myself. Every woman has that “One” that is a Déjà Vu. We know the best thing to do is try and forget them the best we can. We try to move on and create a new life for ourselves. But for some reason, we can’t get our brains to flush them from our thoughts. Oh, the power of the mind. Some days we are better at accomplishing this than others. It’s amazing how they will just randomly pop in and out of our brains at any given time or when you least expect it. That’s where keeping yourself busy with friends, work, and hobbies come into play. As I listened to this song, there was a line in the song that “really”, hit home with me.
“We were meant to be, but only in a Memory…”
Ladies, those are true words. If it was real and meant to be, then guess what? It wouldn’t be a memory. It would be real and they wouldn’t be gone and you wouldn’t be reading this. Because there would be no need too. So, let it go. Let them go. Because trust me they aren’t sitting around worrying about what went wrong, why it didn’t work or even what you are doing. They are out having the time of their lives. Going places, doing things and no one to answer too. So why should you be doing anything less than what they are doing? You deserve a life and happiness just as much as they do. So look back and remember it as “Déjà vu”.
Love doesn’t walk away, love fights for anything worth fighting for. Trust me, you don’t want someone who walks away and feels like it’s not worth fighting for. They don’t deserve your love. Remember you are worth fighting for and if they don’t feel that way, then trust me there is someone out there that will feel that way.
Yes, it was a part of your life, but it wasn’t the end of your life. Your life just goes on but just down a different path. He left, not you. So why would you want to love someone who is not capable of loving you? Love is a two-way street – not a one way. Get up from there and brush yourself off and go create the life you so deserve.
Trust God that he truly has something or someone better than before. You deserve more than just a memory. You deserve someone to love you and to love you for you. Speak those words every day when you wake up “Yes, God I deserve so much more than a memory, I deserve someone to love me. I mean someone who truly loves me”. Put life into those words. Speak these words over your life every day.
“ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find;
knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh. findeth;
and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.” Matthew 7: 7-8
We are all human and I to have to remind myself of this every day. I’m no different than you or any other woman for that matter. I wake up each morning and decide before getting out of bed today is going to be a great day and I’m not going to let things bother me. When you feel, yourself falling and you can’t seem to clear your thoughts, grab a girlfriend and go out have dinner or a drink and not just any drink, order that glass of champagne and remind yourself….
“This is what I deserve…a “Champagne Life”. I will not settle for anything less.
Girlfriends are for picking us up, kicking us in the butt and reminding us we deserve so much more than what that person could have every given us. So grab that girlfriend and pop that bottle of champagne open because GIRLFRIEND YOU DESERVE IT!
Here’s the song if you would like to listen to it: Deja Vu by Lauren Duski